what women want

'sex and the city' portrays women in nyc as single, smart, sexy, and eternally searching for 'mr. right'.

sadly this all too familiar cliche rings true. nearly all of my girlfriends are single (myself included) - why is this? they are a group of beautiful, fascinating, fun loving, intelligent professionals. any man would be lucky to have them. so why is it that they are all still in search of 'the one'?

to grossly generalize, two generations ago marriage was a woman's only choice. most women were completely financially dependent on their husbands, and in so doing, locked themselves into a union where they lacked power. indescretions were tolerated - what other choice did a woman have? over this past generation, women had to choose - career or family.. there is no fault in being an educated housewife - i probably would have done the same.. but in this generation, women are refusing to choose. they want both - the security and independence of their career and a lifelong partnership of equals.

is this why it's so difficult to find the perfect man? is it hormonal, pheromonal? do most men fear sharing the power in a relationship? or maybe it's just plain difficult/near impossible to find your one true soulmate.

women today i think are setting a higher standard for themselves- we won't settle for less than what we want. we won't settle for less than true love, less than the security that we create for ourselves. so if it takes a little longer to get to where we want to be, so be it - i applaud us for waiting. we can achieve what we are looking for, and as unlikely as it seems, 'the one' does exist.