advice
everyone has their own opinion on what should or could be done in a situation. you would like to think that advice from friends is something you can count on - an impartial (or at least partial in your favor) judge of a situation - and that they mean well for you.. or at least they think that they are advocating for you.
opinions and recommendations tend to come from personal life experience - and being human, these may be riddled with their own baggage or opinions formed from lack of information.. friends sometimes think that tough love may be in order when in fact what they are saying is hurtful or targeting vulnerabilities and may not necessarily be constructive criticism..
and so i must remind myself - an outsider's perspective may or may not be helpful to you. ultimately you decide what to listen to and what to shut out - what do you really know and what choices do you make?
you are in control.
posted by minako @ 3:34 PM
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I agree. Our perceptions, and thus opinions, are based on our own life experiences and therefore subject to personal bias. Then there's the politics of personal motives that invade and distort advice. Ask for
advice when uncertain, but keep a noise filter handy. Better to trust yourself. The truth lies somewhere within.
Hurtful stands out still in my mind. Friends who hurt you - it must be an oxymoron......or maybe none of us has any friends....
i do believe in true friendship. but friends are human too - being hurtful i think comes from people's own insecurities, being hurt themselves, or jealousy.. if it was done with the intention to hurt then i would have to rethink motives of the so-called 'friendship'..
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